Being a wife can be difficult at times, right? Especially when we see how television portrays wives. They can do it all—work outside the home, cook gourmet meals, look glamorous, and still find time to be passionate when the lights go out.

I don’t know about you, but I’m exhausted just thinking about cooking a gourmet meal!

I just read Proverbs 31:10-31, and it is a must-read for all of us women who are married. But, be warned, this was written thousands of years ago, so read between the lines. What I love about this Proverb is that it describes the character and integrity of a wife, not the outward appearance of one.

After reading Proverbs 31:10-31, these were the main points I came away with:

• A wife of noble character is far more precious than jewels.
• Her husband has complete confidence in her.
• She provides for her family.
• She invests wisely.
• She works hard, and she’s strong.
• She is generous and helps the helpless.
• She is clothed with strength and dignity.
• She has a sense of humor.
• She is honored for the fruit of her labors.

Remember when I said this blog was probably more for me than for any of you? After reading Proverbs 31, I feel like a hypocrite. Women are under so much pressure to look their best at any cost (e.g., botox, hours at the gym, dental work). And I admit, I don’t want to age gracefully. But at the end of the day, wouldn’t it be far better to have a noble character than to look 20 years younger?

I’m struggling with this question, and I know some of you are saying, why can’t we have it all? Can we? If you have time this week, let me know what you think.